one thing about me is when i read or watch something and there’s an evil child or some sort of monster who was born a monster i’m always going to side with the monster. sorry about your loser parents i would have loved you. skill issue
romance is a form of creativity. it is the ability to see the potential for beauty in the everyday. freezing flowers in ice so they release floral notes as they melt; learning to draw; taking the scenic way--these acts ask us to leave behind the pragmatic and pay attention to the fanciful, the sensory. in a world devoted to efficiency and productivity, living with romance is a way of reclaiming ones own life. it is a way of saying: being alive is worthwhile for its own sake because i make it so.
when a pelican bites you there’s no malice in their eyes. they aren’t upset at you. they are just hungry and want to see if you fit in their mouths. and if you don’t then it’s no problem and everything is fine. and if you do then well i guess your fate is sealed but that’s ok it’s a beautiful animal
continually awed by how american states function like separate countries
I held back on getting my gender changed in the state of Georgia because it required filing a court case and appearing before a judge to prove that I had transitioned enough to warrant calling myself male on my documents. there was a strong possibility they could deny me because I hadn’t undergone any type of surgery (a requirement under Georgia law that is waived only sometimes), despite passing as male 100% of the time.
this morning I went to the Maryland vehicle administration building and they had a touch screen with buttons that said “male” and “female.”
I paused and asked the lady “I can choose male, right?” and she looked at me (again, I’m just some guy with a beard) (and I think she misheard me) and she was like “Oh! Do you want to be female now?” I said no, my Georgia license (directly in front of her) says female, they wouldn’t let me change it, can I be male now?
she said to just pick whichever I wanted. I got my updated license in 5 minutes.
do you ever think about how in the 90s and 00s, collecting luxury shoes was seen as not only a Woman Thing but like, the height of Feminine Foolishness? at least in mainstream white american culture, it was a focus of misogyny that women buy a lot of nice shoes and men don’t, and men are smarter and more practical for it. anyway now luxury sneakers are a major part of popular masculinity, Fake Jordans is a meme, shoes are for men now. that happened in my lifetime. like it’s one thing to read about how the makers of gender are fluid and cultural, it’s another to experience it myself.
i think this illustrates just how much ideas of gender are shaped by the forces of consumerism
